A very recent life/family emergency has necessitated my being in contact with numerous people, both friends and family members. Each time that I have spoken with this vast team of people, I have been asked essentially the same question, “What can I do to help?” As someone who has handled the majority of my emotional issues alone, I always find that I am without the right answers.
In each case, the relative or friend is not specific about the type of help available. Is it transportation? Is it financial? Is it resources such as attorneys, physicians, psychologists, realtors, counselors, or simply emotional? As I’ve recently reported, I am cognizant of the fact that we all have our unique relationships with God. Consequently, I will never ask someone to pray. But it might be a good idea to respond, “If prayer is something that you do, this would be a good time to pray.”
Until our crisis has ended, I will fervently find areas with which people can lend me their support. It’s not about my needing anything in particular. The systems are in place, the right people are involved, and ultimately, we were in no position to impact the outcome. But I continue to try and identify ways by which those who sincerely want to assist can do so.
Maybe it’s simply a “thank you.” Maybe it’s more along the lines of, “There’s nothing right now but I will let you know if it changes.” Or maybe I simply say, “I can’t tell you how important it is to me that you have offered but I think that I just have to get through this alone.”
No matter my response, please understand that I am grateful for any and all offers for support. My job is to put one foot in front of the other and continue the journey that I have been forced to take. If you have been through a similar situation, you certainly understand what I am saying. If not, you can be certain that if it does happen to you, I will be the first to offer my support. Shalom.