You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you. True power is sitting back and observing things with logic. True power is restraint. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.
Someone recently did me a favor and posted this quote on the web. Initially, I believed it to be a quote from Warren Buffett but as it turns out, someone else attached his name to it. We are all subject to commentary and criticism, on all levels and for all subjects. Whether it is our cooking, clothing, choice of car or communications, someone or several people will likely have an observation or two to make, particularly if we solicit those remarks.
The key, according to this paragraph, is to be unemotional about everything that is said. Emotion defeats logic and logic requires restraint but prevents others from controlling us. It’s difficult to refute this argument, especially when you consider what he’s accomplished in life.
My response is mostly that of agreement, but I wonder if there is room to react emotionally to some of those things that are said to us. The other question is whether or not seeking power is always a desirable action. Is he saying that there is no logic to emotions? As in most concepts that I know, black and white arguments consisting of “never and always” do not work.
That’s not to say that there is no wisdom in this quotation. Perhaps the key is the portion, “…an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.” Being judicious about the decisions on things said to us makes perfect sense. This appears to be another way of saying not to take everything personally, that doing so deletes our logic and power.
Expressions of love, confidence, respect, loyalty and comprehension must be taken personally and are clothed with emotion. Doesn’t it seem that doing so enhances us, making us more powerful? It’s the rest of the things said to us that do damage.
I’ll never understand words that are said out of cruelty or thoughtlessness – these sap us of our power. But I respectfully suggest that while sitting back and restraint are frequently recommended, allowing positive (occasionally emotional) observations is healthy and constructive. Shalom.